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 Senseless (1998)
IMDB rating: 5.30
Plot: Darryl Witherspoon is a young black college student who wants to win annual junior analyst competition, which can land him a job in a big brokerage company. He becomes a guinea pig for the drug developed at the college which is promised to heighten all senses by ten times.
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Directors: Spheeris Penelope
Actors: Lillard Matthew,Torn Rip,Wayans Marlon,Spade David,Dourif Brad,McGonagle Richard,Lively Ernie,Lawrence Mark Christopher,Ingle John,Comedy,Romance,
Christians, atheists, etc: I need advice?
Sorry, I know this question/concern has no relevance regarding religion, but I decided to post my question in an active area.
I am a 20-year-old male in college, and I have been single for five years. Actually, I’ve never experienced a true relationship. I know that I shouldn’t focus on dating a woman right now, but it’s so hard for me to transcend the powerful desire to share my life with a woman. Each day that passes, I become more and more distraught. I feel as if I am incomplete without someone on my side to cheer me up when college becomes overwhelming; or to know that you share unequivocal love with a brilliant woman.
Sorry if this sounds like a senseless rant, but I simply do not know how to handle the stress of being single anymore. I’m very sociable, kind, and understanding. I am a member of the international honor society Phi Theta Kappa, a journalist for the college, and I’m in decent shape. A lot of my friends always ask me why AM I single? And this is something I cannot understand…. What should I do…or what am I doing wrong? Am I too much of a nerd or something? Should I change who I am? I know I’m young and have a whole life ahead of me, and I’m involved with many activities that should keep me busy; but, I still feel incomplete without a girlfriend. I just want to be normal like everyone else and experience some sense of love.
Thanks.
Cdn-gal. The fact that you focus on the number of times the word "I" was used instead of the actual method, shows that you are judgmental and highly cynical. You really should take time to read the question instead of perusing my question for faults.
If you are sociable, that is good. however do you spend time to socialize specifically to learn about relatioships?
that is a good idea. it is good to take time to get together with girls of all sorts and atl to them asking all kinds of questoins.
one thing to know is that there are some girls and women who talk with eachother sharing notes on how to get money and things from men. it is important to know more about women. what is true what is not true. there are a lot of mirages. Also look into marriages, ask people who have divorced how was the nehavior of the wife, and ask many people. and you will come to know many things which was not apparent to you before. this is good since you gain better understanding.
To be clear, I value men and women. I have infinite respects for both. As you know both men and women play tricks on eachother.
what is important for you to know is to be completely emotionally fulfilled whether you have a partner or not. that is partly written in my first book.
Knowing about girls is important fo ryou to become familiar with them. the more you become familiar the better your understanding of what type you are looking for.
meanwhile i’ll leave you with a bit on my knowledge
if your happiness depends on being with another person, when in reality that person could leave you for any reason, is that happiness? no that is misery. so your happiness should not come from being with someone else.
it is important to feed yourself good emotions.
you know how to eat food to feed yourself, you need to learn to feed yourself good emotions, to love yourself
how?
you See your thoughts your emotions and YOURSELF and you see how precious those feelings and thoughts are you See how precious YOU are both by physical appearance as well as YOUR VERY SELF. you start to appreciated yourself, and eventually love yourself. then it will make no difference to you if another is with you or not.
you see a flower as beautiful, you see a girl as beautiful, you see a male tiger as beautiful and awesome. now you must see yourself as awesome and beautiful.
once you achieve loving yourself, then you can be with others, but it will not be out of need, you will not need them, it will be wonderful when you are with them , but if they should leave, it will not affect you because you love yourself.
by for now.
Awake Sage & Author Omid Mankoo | Feb 05, 2010
Everyone else is just like you…..going through the same things.
You’re 20…..give it a few years.
daljack -a girl | Feb 04, 2010
You are looking at this all wrong. You are focused on what a partnercan do, and needs to do, for you. Incomplete people are unattractive No one wants the burden of fixing someones life. Find a way to be happy as yourself & the rest will follow.
Rachel | Feb 04, 2010
PTK FTW!!!
Maybe you should consider being a renouncer? You never know how utterly pointless and useless your suffering is until you never have to experience the urges you feel ever again. Renounciation is true freedom, you will finally begin to make choices in your life that aren’t mere reactions to the dismal urges that humans share with all other lowly beasts, but fail to elevate us above them.
Think about it, who is in the better position - someone who has all the food he can ever eat or someone who never gets hungry?
His Divine Shadow | Feb 04, 2010
May I make a suggestion, and I mean this in all friendship. Don’t concentrate on romantic love right now. Concentrate on doing what you need to do to get a good education and find a fulfilling job. If you meet girls, enjoy them as friends; don’t get all nervous about "is this the one" and all.
You are only 20, there is so much of life ahead of you. I have found that when God wants me to have something or other in my life, whatever it is, He brings it into my life. That can include a person. If you live like this, it takes so much pressure off of you
Esther | Feb 04, 2010
don’t change yourself, you just need to wait. try to focus on other things.
Jem | Feb 04, 2010
So no woman wants you, gee that’s tough. Even monkeys have girlfriends.
@Asker: There’s the problem, if you can’t be nice to a pretty girl like Cdn-gal, while disagreeing with what she says, then you ain’t ever gonna get your leg over. And what nothing for me?
But hey, if was probably your ancestors that caused us all to have opposable thumbs, so cheers.
Existentialist. | Feb 04, 2010
No other person can make you complete, but it is very nice to have someone to hold and to share things with, and no man lives by bread alone — sex is heavenly and is a physical need all its own. Try dating, but don’t think every woman you date may be "the one", don’t fall too fast, and never get married without a long engagement. Have fun and enjoy it, and never misrepresent yourself. You’ll only get the wrong girl that way.
moryonder | Feb 04, 2010
You’re placing too much value on the idea of another person. You run the risk of placing a huge burden on someone you do meet by expecting them to live up to some expectation that they may not be able to.
Get to know yourself better. Learn to be happy with yourself, by yourself. If you’re able to be comfortable with yourself, you’ll be more confident and more likely to attract somebody. And when you do meet somebody, you will be able to develop a stable partnership rather than a hazardous co-dependent relationship.
Valekhai | Feb 04, 2010
I’d like to second a lot of what Esther and moryonder said, and try to give you a warning about falling too far, too fast simply due to inexperience. I am almost twice your age, and it took years and a great deal of learning for me to really be good in relationships.
Part of me leans toward counseling avoiding relationships altogether, and to push toward casual physical relationships in your situation. "Friends with benefits" or the like, to help separate sex and love in your mind and to hopefully help avoid the pitfall of becoming swiftly and inappropriately enamored of a woman just because of the physical side of the relationship.
In any case, patience and remaining self-aware are good advice, and try to remember that the need for a relationship that you feel is perfectly reasonable, yet carries with it some inherent risks. You are young - you have time.
Captain Sarcastic - The Captain | Feb 04, 2010
Your answer is in your question, You used the word "I" 22 times in the two paragraphs you wrote. Personally I felt that you were too self absorbed to be a true friend…I mean even the fact that You want a woman has more to do about what she is going to do for You.
Cdn-Gal | Feb 04, 2010